Episodes — FRUITBOWL

Raised by feminists who had strong opinions about women’s rights, pro-choice advocacy and lesbian visibility, Justin knew early on his sexuality wasn’t pre-determined. But even in liberal college-town Providence, RI he was a target of less-evolved classmates. When presented with his first opportunity for sex experimentation, he chose the D and hasn’t looked back.

But ambivalence about masculine tropes and romantic love kept him from finding community with other gay men. It wasn’t until he discovered the Hole In The Wall bar in San Francisco that Justin found his tribe and made lasting friendships including his partner of 20 years.

Justin has finally given in to his family’s tradition of higher education after years as an independent queer comics artist and a brief stint as an adult film performer. He recently finished work as a producer of NO STRAIGHT LINES, an award winning feature documentary about the rich history of queer comic creators. You can check out the trailer HERE.

Welcome to Season 4 of FRUITBOWL! Rebecca M. Davis is the new season 4 voice of Fruitbowl. Dave Pezzner is the Assistant Editor & Mixer for this episode. Story editing by Dave Quantic. Post-Production funding for this episode provided by our Patreon community. Find out more about supporting FRUITBOWL HERE.

I’m excited to announce our new call for submissions from listeners. Send in your comments to dave@fruitbowlpodcast.com via your phone’s voice memo app or just write an email or tweet at @fruitbowlpod. If you need a prompt for an idea, tell me about a memorable hook up with a unique person or in a surprising location!

Word of mouth is our most powerful promotional tool right now, so tell your friends about FRUITBOWL and rate & review us on Apple podcasts and Spotify.

Find out more about Rebecca M. Davis at https://www.instagram.com/stayuplateshow/

Fruitbowl’s fruit artwork was created by Patrick Stephenson of Bearpad!https://bearpad.storenvy.com/

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S3E21 - Saira, 30. Wilmington, DE

This episode features a voice that will be familiar with Fruitbowl fans: our very own host with the most, Saira B.! After just a few minutes of listening, you’ll soon learn why Saira (who, BTW, uses ALL the pronouns) is the perfect person to represent the amazing diversity of experiences of Fruitbowl interviewees.

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S3E20 - Adam T., 37. Barre, VT

Adam grew up in what he describes as a “Rated R household.” Prince was an early emissary of carnal pleasure who made a deep impact on Adam as a future professional musician. His parents split when he was age 2 but his mom remarried and both his dad and his stepdad represented two different versions of masculinity. But homosexuality was still a taboo subject so Adam had to educate himself through early experimentation with friends and porn.

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S3E19 - Mike, 33. Austin, TX

Mike maintained a rigid moral code and was skeptical of other queer people who had more loose definitions of relationships. It wasn’t until he lived in New York City that he became friends with other queer people who were in non-traditional partnerships. Now he lives in Seattle with his two boyfriends and most of his friends have very open perspectives when it comes to love, friendship, sex and relationships.

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S3E18 - Donovan, 46. San Diego

As a kid, Donovan loved to dance and even took lessons beginning at age 9, but growing up in San Diego, he soon realized that the many military bases in the area fueled a toxic culture of masculinity and homophobia and any behavior outside the norm put a target on his back. Once, after seeing a movie, he was called a faggot and assaulted. So even though he had some early experimentation with same sex intimacy, he didn't officially come out until college.

Married now and living in Palm Springs, Donovan is in a committed, non-monogamous relationship but, even as an experienced lover, he still has had struggles with consent and standing up for himself. He describes one time when a partner didn't respect his boundaries.

Donovan has some great advice when it comes to hook ups, preferring connection over speed and convenience. Kissing and eye contact is sexy and - trust him - don't ever use Vaseline as lube.

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S3E17 - Andre, 31. Chicago

Andre can’t remember a time when people thought he was straight. Raised as a girl by an independent single mom who took a “tough love” approach to parenting, Andre grew up with a rich inner life but had few friends. “Lesbean” was the preferred insult in grade school, so Andre made up a fictional boyfriend in order to avoid talking about sex.

Even after entering college and coming out as trans, Andre identified as asexual until he met his first girlfriend when they were the only ones who showed up to a sober vegan pride after party.

It wasn’t until he moved to Chicago and lived alone that Andre realized he was free to explore sex on his own terms. He informed himself about kink, explored bathhouses for the first time and his first experience bottoming came from an unexpected guide.

Now that he has more experience under his belt, Andre has decided to stop being the token “first trans male experience” for sex partners and has dedicated himself to being a sex-positive advocate for trans rights.

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